Well, as it turned out the next day things went back to our comfy normal and I realized we still have stuff to say.
This morning in an email to Lori I wrote that I realize that Bob just doesn't have it in him after all these years to constantly feed my need for hearing lovely words. Instead he shows me daily in all the little things he does for me without complaint or eyerolling. I wrote that I know he loves me deeply, and I know I am needy from time to time. I have to dig deep inside of me and know that all those things I want to hear from him are being said to me in a silent whisper in every little thing he does for me. I am sure there are millions of women out there wanting to hear the things I want to hear and missing that they are being said in the day to day actions of the ones they love. I realize that means more to me than words What do you think?
We are all in different stages and we all have different desires and hopes for our relationships with our honeys. Do you guys ever think about this kind of stuff or does it seem like I dwell on it a bit much?
Oh yeah, I'm right there with ya. I have my days too and then seem to think that my honey could say somethig, anything to help me lighten up. He is usually quiet but not in a bad way. He'll pamper me and then everything is fine in our world. Sometimes actions mean so much more. But sometimes I do want him to say only what I want to hear at that moment except he can't read my mind and thats a good thing too.
ReplyDeleteWell put. I think they are missing a read the mind bone or something. Their lives would run so much more smoothly if they had that.
ReplyDeleteVery well said girls! Although Dan is much more verbal than the average Joe, he does miss the mark when it's just sweet comforting words that I need. He is all about fixing and offering advice. If I am hurt or upset about something with Sarah - and merely need him to put his big arms around me and say something like "I understand your pain - I'm here" and leave it at that. Nooooooooooo, he wants to solve it - wants to tell me all the reasons why or how of the situation - when, in fact, I know them much more than he.
ReplyDeleteBut, without a doubt, I know the man loves me -I feel it every day, even without words and even on bad days (I think).
I think these men relationships are much more different (no duh) then our kid relationships, or our sister, co-worker, good friend relationships. The mind reader bone would be a good thing..... maybe that was part of the rib that was removed!
Thanks for making me think so early in the morning.I love you girls soooooo much!
Diane, what is the date of the next 11th day chemo round?
Whoa...I am days behind on commenting and I hate that because I am right there with you girls in the relationship arena. Earl tends to be a fixer too when I just want "oh, honey, I understand. Just let me hold you". If that ever happens I might have to have 911 come and get my heart started again...if you know what I mean. I do know Earl loves me or he wouldn't be still hanging in there with me for nearly 48 years. Or is he still here because he would never be able to find anything without me? lol..No, I know he loves me by his actions and I hope he knows how deep my love is for him. He should, as I tend to say it often.
ReplyDeleteWell, it is good to know it isn't just me with my big expectations. Thanks for the input. It seems we are all on the same page here.
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